Lack of Progress

Has it been three months since DQ went to stay in the group home? Yeah, pretty close. Has she made any changes? No, not really.

I went for family therapy last week. What it boils down to is; She's spent the last 3 months figuring out how to skirt the rules and still do what she wants. 

She's on the internet at school. Of course the school thinks they have their system locked down. But these are teenagers. When it comes to the internet, they're smarter. So of course DQ is talking to people she shouldn't be.

I asked her, "Are you doing things you shouldn't be on the computers at school?"
She started to say no, but I cut her off. "And please understand, I already know the answer."

She's also using other kids' cell phones. Texting people she shouldn't be talking to. Making God only knows what plans.

Friday night, the staff called me. Turns out, DQ left school grounds Thursday and went across the street to some little boys house. Strictly to have sex with him. She claims to have used protection. But as everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie, well...

When she went back to school she told some people what she'd done. But again, these are teenagers. Gossipy little hens that they are, it got back to one of the other girls who lives at the home. She told the staff and they confronted DQ. Yeah, it happened. 

It was the second time in 3 months that she left school to go to a boys house...That. We. Know. About! She's lost all her privileges, again.

We have the funding meeting coming up next week. Remember they will assess every three months to see how DQ is doing? The group home staff are starting to talk about a higher level of care. They're not sure if they can provide the kind of supervision DQ needs. DQ can not be trusted in the community. She's not working on change. She's doing exactly the same things there as she did at home. It doesn't look good for DQ.

I'm not surprised. I didn't think she would get her shit together in three months. But I am a little shocked that they are already thinking about a locked facility. With school on grounds. No freedom in the community. It makes sense. If she can't be trusted, then she becomes more restricted.

Big sigh. I shudder to think what's going to happen if she doesn't see the light. What will it take before she stops doing such dangerous things?