tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post4835219660198477571..comments2023-09-01T04:57:16.668-04:00Comments on Life In Left Field: Short End of The StickMissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10648325812333011430noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-23319892903348065852009-04-13T09:51:00.000-04:002009-04-13T09:51:00.000-04:00Missy, I'm officially applying for the BFF positio...Missy, I'm officially applying for the BFF position. Also, you have every right to be infuriated. I'm all for a guys' night out for husbands, but not 3 times a week! Something IS going on, but I can't say what, either. Sounds like you may need to have some time apart and some serious talks... (I'm totally not one who should be giving marital advice!) <BR/><BR/>Hope everything gets better!rachel...https://www.blogger.com/profile/09513121601886576274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-73532198553427932202009-04-08T15:49:00.000-04:002009-04-08T15:49:00.000-04:00I read it all.. and I totally get your feelings.. ...I read it all.. and I totally get your feelings.. my husband is out three times a week at least with his biking buddies... urgh.kelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03040730267411361863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-17634954923144200652009-04-08T14:07:00.000-04:002009-04-08T14:07:00.000-04:00Hi Missy, I'm also sorry you had a lousy evening l...Hi Missy, I'm also sorry you had a lousy evening last night. I agree with Stormy and Grandma Barbara and can't really add any more to their great words of wisdom. You should take some time for yourself.Dee-Zigns Handcrafted Jewelryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13366942622993117894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-83041887993712778782009-04-08T11:06:00.000-04:002009-04-08T11:06:00.000-04:00Thanks everyone.Thanks everyone.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10648325812333011430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-52141536177650779682009-04-08T11:03:00.000-04:002009-04-08T11:03:00.000-04:00I think you should take Stormy's advice seriously....I think you should take Stormy's advice seriously. Hubby is yelling because he feels quilting and that's an uncomfortable feeling. You do need to talk to each other, but at a time when things are not so volatile. If you can't talk, maybe find a counselor who could help you. Communication is the most important thing - that's how you come to understand your partner. Be patient, be persistant. You two can work this out. And know that your friends are here for you so use us to vent.Grandma Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11694128166546991304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-22730284034823843002009-04-08T10:30:00.000-04:002009-04-08T10:30:00.000-04:00I don't have anything insightful to say, but I wan...I don't have anything insightful to say, but I want you to know you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17149826298221574873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-23020570142444364282009-04-08T09:52:00.000-04:002009-04-08T09:52:00.000-04:00OMG - I would have been so ticked off. I think you...OMG - I would have been so ticked off. I think you handled yourself very well. Have you talked with him about where he is going and why? I can only imagine that you are thinking the worst, but hopefully if you can get him to talk to you, something good will come of it. So sorry things are rough right now.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by my blog this morning!Kelly Deneen Raymondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684897300147309196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-64064205688857038222009-04-08T09:45:00.000-04:002009-04-08T09:45:00.000-04:00First of all, I am terribly sorry to hear what hap...First of all, I am terribly sorry to hear what happened. You are right to be concerned about his behavior. He is being an ass for sure. The question is why? <BR/><BR/>Are you guys in general able to talk out your problems? My wife and I are terrible at that. If you can, I'd strongly advise you to have a talk with him once you both cool down. There is definitely something going on and it needs to be attended to.<BR/><BR/>I think the possibility that he is having an affair is the remotest possibility. More likely, something is bothering him but he can't talk about it. It seems to have something to do with feeling overwhelmed and suffocated. He's been coming home late but he feels guilty about it. That's why he yelled at his daughter when she asked "Where have you been?". He thought she meant "why don't you fulfill your obligation and be home for dinner?", not to mean "I missed you".<BR/><BR/>My wife sometimes tells me "Don't expect me to meet all your needs for friendship. Go out with your friends sometimes.". Then I go out and she complains that she spent the whole day with the kids and I left her alone to deal with the kids at night too." Sometimes there is no winning for a man in that situation.<BR/><BR/>As far as the bedroom issue, that's where other conflicts in the marriage play out. He is not necessarily rejecting you or having an affair. I think he is upset about other things in the relationship and they are showing up in the bedroom.<BR/><BR/>There is a huge gap of understanding between a woman who is (mostly) staying home with the kids and a man who is (mostly) outside making money. You gotta talk to understand each other. You have legitimate concerns. He too may have legitimate ones. Don't try to second guess each other's intentions. Sit down and talk. You may be surprised at what you hear. He may also be surprised at what he hears. You are not living his life, he is not living yours. A little empathy sometimes goes a long way. I hope that you can understand each other better that way.BlogPosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323636746858370713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-8120876434619420432009-04-08T09:28:00.000-04:002009-04-08T09:28:00.000-04:00This is no fun! I hate these kind of heated argum...This is no fun! I hate these kind of heated arguments that start so fast and escalate so quickly, escpecially right before bed. For me it usually leads to a sleepless night.<BR/><BR/>My husband used to pull this kind of crap, but after a few discussions (fights) we worked it out. When my husband gets home from work, he does whatever he wants/ needs to get done for the evening, then we have dinner together as a family. If I have to work, he must be home on time and prepared to attend to and feed the children for the evening. For us it works and we spend almost every evening together.<BR/><BR/>Maybe you could ask him in a non judgemental, nice, sweet wife way why he seems to be allergic to your home and fam.<BR/><BR/>Good luck Missy!Alicesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810703771030465176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-57954862765774051892009-04-08T08:53:00.000-04:002009-04-08T08:53:00.000-04:00I'm new to the blog & don't know your ...I'm new to the blog & don't know your stories, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry.<BR/><BR/>Sounds like you deserve a stiff drink.Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15767413616473392093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3939538549393592016.post-21864390236940643462009-04-08T08:43:00.000-04:002009-04-08T08:43:00.000-04:00So sorry to hear you're going through a hard time....So sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. YOU need a girls night (at the very least). <BR/><BR/>Here's a virtual martini...clink!Ann Imighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01383249597505013239noreply@blogger.com